Dr. Merryl J. Polak, a CT Fertility patient who had a child in 2011, has just published a book about her long struggle with infertility. The book, "Murphy Lives Here," has received enthusiastic reviews, many from mothers (and mothers to be) who face similar challenges. "The author shares the feelings that many women with infertility have, but are afraid to say out loud," states one review, "amazing story of strength, courage, and perseverance... I learned so much about adoption and infertility," states another. The book describes in detail the author's long journey, which culminated at CT Fertility where Dr. Doyle finally helped make her motherhood dream come true. We hope you check this book out, and if you do, note that Merryl is "Emma" in her book, and Dr. Doyle is "Dr. Foster".
Merryl and her husband Martin tried to have a baby for eight years, and even tried to adopt a child, but after several days the birth mother changed her mind and the child was taken away. By the time Merryl came to CT Fertility she was traumatized by the experience and exhausted her insurance coverage. Fortunately, Dr. Doyle invited the couple to benefit from CT Fertility's expanded "Lifelines Initiative", where every year several families receive free fertility treatments. “After trying twice more, Dr. Doyle said that he really wanted us to have a baby and encouraged us to keep going," recounts Merryl. "He even offered to give us our money back if we weren't able to get pregnant. At that point he had already provided us our treatments at minimal cost. Generously, Dr. Doyle covered the fees for the egg extractions and embryo transfers. He said he would do whatever it takes to help us become parents... We were blown away by this because no other clinic would say this to us.”
In the book's afterward section, Merryl describes the successful last leg of their journey: "When Dr. Doyle spoke with us regarding the quality of our embryos during our last attempt, he pledged, 'these are by far the best embryos we have ever had.' I took a home pregnancy test nine days later and it was positive. Nine and a half months later, our little girl joined our family. There has not been one day that has gone by where I have not thanked my doctors out loud and stared at our child with absolute gratitude for joining our family."
After such a long battle, Merryl explains that it was not just the outcome that was different this time, but also the entire experience. “Contrary to other clinics, we felt that CT Fertility is not just about their statistics. They genuinely want to help people and everyone seems to know and care about you… One of the coordinators became my close friend; she was always very positive and reassuring. When I recently came back to say hello with our baby, everyone came out to greet us. It was like a family reunion."
Merryl expressed her gratitude in the book's acknowledgements: "To the entire staff at CT Fertility, thank you all for believing in our dream. You are the gold standard in both medicine and bedside manner."
"Merryl Polak, a public school teacher, has been writing and teaching others how to write for years. She is well versed on the topic of infertility and adoption due to her own unique experiences in the pursuit of parenthood. She lives in Connecticut, with her wonderful husband, miracle child, and adorable rescue dog."